Student narcisicm on America’s campuses worst in 25 years July 6, 2007Posted by daveintexas in Current Events, drama.
Yep. The reason your nearly-adult kid is a self-absorbed petulant wuss-bag is because of Fred Rogers.
Thank goodness YOU didn’t contribute to the problem.
LSU finance professor Don Chance comments on students who approached him near the end of the semester, asking for extra credit projects to lift up their grades to an A. “They felt so entitled” he recalls, “and it just hit me. We can blame Mr. Rogers”.
Presumably professor Don didn’t cave to the requests. Good for him.
Fred Rogers, the late TV icon, told several generations of children that they were “special” just for being whoever they were. He meant well, and he was a sterling role model in many ways. But what often got lost in his self-esteem-building patter was the idea that being special comes from working hard and having high expectations for yourself.
Now Mr. Rogers, like Dr. Spock before him, has been targeted for re-evaluation. And he’s not the only one. As educators and researchers struggle to define the new parameters of parenting, circa 2007, some are revisiting the language of child ego-boosting. What are the downsides of telling kids they’re special? Is it a mistake to have children call us by our first names? When we focus all conversations on our children’s lives, are we denying them the insights found when adults talk about adult things?
The article questions the judgement of telling kids “they’re special” or “you’re fine just the way you are” instead of “work harder” or “you need improvement”, or even “it’s a goddam dog eat dog world out there kid, and you’re wearing milk bone shorts”.
“Should kids should be allowed to address their parents and adults by their first name “? is another topic. I can’t speak to this one (did Mr. Rogers encourage this? Anybody know?), most kids I am around don’t do this, to me or their parents. They don’t do it to me because I start yelling at them like a pirate and threaten to hack their limbs off and feed em to Davy Jones locker if they do.
One time is usually enough to make the point.
Meh. It’s a bit of a simplistic view, which is what you’d expect in a one page article. It doesn’t consider what’s “age-appropriate”. Fred’s show was targeted at pretty young kids, 3-8 years olds (just a guess really, but if you were into Mr. Rogers at 11 and we found out about it we were gonna beat the crap out of you). Reinforcing messages at that young age seem ok to me.
Yes, if your kid is driving, it’s well past time to start adjusting the messages. You’re preparing them for life, and as pre-teens and teenagers they are mature enough to understand. Let them see you work hard for what you have. Give them a growing list of responsibilities and duties, and encourage accomplishment and good behavior. Don’t be afraid to discipline them both when they’re young, and when they’re older. Let them get a job (make them).
I’m more inclined to blame doting or lazy parents than I am Fred Rogers, particularly when it comes to parents that permit bad behavior, something the writer discusses. “But as an excuse or as justification for unacceptable behavior, “They’re just children” is just misguided”.
I am reminded of the throw down in Monteal, was it? Good times.
Parents, if your kid is outta control, even if you think it’s ok, don’t force others to suffer it. Remove him or her.
Some of those times my kids were over-tired and not as easy to reason with, but we wouldn’t inflict it on others. And when you do something about it (like drag em outside or upstairs or whatever), you’re reinforcing the message “I’m sorry you’re having a bad day, but you need to cool it”.
So was Mr. Rogers really sugar-coating it too much? Did he sow the seeds of self-love and petulance? Well, let’s observe and learn.
Let’s see. Music. Getting along with your neighbors. Pain.
Seems ok to me.
Hot Air Update: The Devil!
Me and Allah got this topical thing goin on lately.
It’s freaky. It’s like he’s in my head or something.