The Strangest Memorial Day email I Ever Received May 29, 2006Posted by daveintexas in honor.
Yeah, I know, it's not like that's a long list or anything.
I received this today from someone I do not know. I've redacted things that might identify anyone:
Everyone please read: Today is Sunday 28 or 29 MAY 2006 depending what part of the world you’re at. My best friend (redacted) is in trouble. He is currently in IRAQ due to come home in the middle of (redacted). He and his fiancé are in some serious trouble. (Redacted) had a really terrible day and said some really mean things to his girl, and now his girl is on the verge of dropping him. All I ask is you reply to her email address (redacted) with the subject line of "Take (redacted) back" For everyone who doesn’t know him, he is a sweetheart, he is the kindest most caring guy you will ever meet. And for you guys out there he is one of those guys you just wanna look up to and follow regardless of who or what your rank is. He is a natural born leader with a voice that is strong and loud. I really hope this can sway her a little bit. I can’t stand seeing my buddy like this. That man loves his woman with all his heart and he feels like the worst person in the world and would do anything for her. Please let’s help him out.
PLEASE DO THIS, Its 2 seconds to forward to this address. And you will possibly save a relationship that was destined to be.
I admire this soldier's desire to help out a friend, I really do. And I have no doubt that they sincerely want to help, and care deeply about their buddy's situation.
Also, I cannot imagine what a "terrible day" in Iraq could be, but I bet it could suck 100 times worse than a bad day for me.
It's just, this ain't gonna work. That girl, whoever she is, does not want a thousand strangers to tell her how good her man is. She wants him to love her. If she doesn't feel loved, she reacts in a way that hurts him, and things get nuts. I pondered whether or not I should reply, and I sent this:
I received your email today, and although we don't know each other, I have to say I am really impressed with your desire to help your buddy. Whatever else he's dealing with right now, he is very fortunate to have someone who cares about him so much that you would make this plea on his behalf.
I hope you will encourage him to talk with his fiance, and try to find a way to express why he said what he did, and to find a way to get past it. Right now she wants to feel his love, she needs it deeply. When he says harsh things, it feels "unloving" to her, and she will react in a way that feels "disrespectful" to him. As a man, he needs her respect like she needs his love. And when you don't get what you need, you respond in a way that takes away what your partner needs most. Things escalate.
Around here we say "things get crazy".
He sounds unhappy, which sounds to me like a man who is committed, and does deeply love her. If he can get that across, it will energize her, she will devote herself to him, and in turn, he will to her.
You mentioned a "terrible day". I can't imagine how bad a terrible day can be for our troops in Iraq, but I'll bet it can suck something awful. I'm sorry for that. I'll close by saying thank you, to you and your friend for your service to this country. I am inspired by you and men and women like you who serve and dig in and do the hard job day in and day out, away from your families, your friends, people who love you.
God bless you and keep you safe.